What Can You Do When You’re in Love with Two Men at the Same Time?

The heart can take us in many unexpected directions, and sometimes we find ourselves with feelings for more than one person. And how lucky you are if they both love you back! But now you feel like you need to choose one or the other – and you don’t want to choose. It’s an awkward dilemma.

But your first question should be, why choose at all? Isn’t your heart big enough to love them both? If they’re both pressuring you to pick one and reject the other, that’s understandable – but what’s in it for you? One way to deal with your problem is to just meet it head-on and be honest with both men. Tell them that you care deeply for both of them, and that you see no reason why you shouldn’t be allowed to continue your romances with each of them.

After all, your heart is big enough to love more than one person. You love your friends and your family, and it’s not like you’ve run out of love yet. Far from it – the more people you love, the more love it seems that you have to give. Why can’t that extend to your romantic interests?

But it’s more complicated than that. As exciting as the idea may be as something of a social experiment, there are a couple of reasons why these sorts of arrangements don’t usually work. It’s doubtful that your two gentlemen friends will be willing to share you, for one. For another, juggling multiple relationships can be exhausting – it’s much simpler to just pick one and, regretfully, let the other go.

Let’s say, however, that you try to make it work with both. You explain to them that you’re full of love, and promise that neither will feel shortchanged by you. Then sit back and see what happens. You could end up making them do the choosing for you – it’s highly likely that one, if not both, will feel that they can’t deal with this sort of tripod arrangement. The one who chooses to stay could be the one who really understands you. Then again, he could just lack the spine to stand up for what he really wants, which is an exclusive relationship.

None of this, of course, is a simple answer to the question of what to do. If you really feel you need to pick one, there are two ways you can do it: One is to follow your instincts – surely you love one man more than the other, or have a strong instinct as to which one would be the better long-term partner. There’s something to be said for the idea that really, deep down, you know which one you want to be with.

The other solution is a little more time-consuming and involves a degree of self-awareness. Take a hard look at yourself, your needs and your lifestyle and decide which of the two men will best meet your needs. It’s a little cold-blooded, and if you’re honest you may find you’re better suited to one man while more viscerally attracted to the other. But there’s more to life than sex, and if one man meets your emotional needs better and will be a better life partner overall, he’s your best choice.

Still, there’s always that intriguing possibility that you could continue to have relationships with both men, with everyone acting like mature adults and all that. There are people that make these sorts of arrangements work (look up “polyamory” on the Web) and if your two guys are willing to give it a go, it’s always worth a shot. It isn’t easy – people who maintain multiple relationships have some serious scheduling difficulties, and jealousy still rears its ugly head. But if you genuinely love both men and want to keep both of them in your life, it’s worth raising the possibility and seeing what happens.

In your heart and, somewhere, in your head you know already know what you want to do, and who you want to be with. Society insists that we choose up partners and pair off, never finding anyone else attractive and, of course, never falling in love with someone while we’re already involved with another. But what the heart wants is sometimes entirely different from what society tells us we should want – and only you can decide where to share your love.

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